sex and intimacy coaching services for individuals and couples

Your sex life is soooo f-ing important, and I’m here to help

I work with...

  • People who are single, dating and partnered

  • Monogamous and open couples

  • People of all genders

I offer…

  • 1:1 Sex and Intimacy Coaching for individuals who want to enjoy sex more, get out of their head, feel more comfortable and confident in their own skin – and create real and deep emotional connections too. Learn more here.

  • Couples Sex and Intimacy Coaching for couples who want to improve communication about sex and feelings, and find more alignment sexually. Learn more here.

  • Self-Guided Sex and Intimacy Programs to supplement your coaching, or for people who aren’t quite ready for personalized coaching but still want to explore this work. Learn more here.

How it works…

Step 1: Schedule a free consultation — a 20-minute no pressure conversation where we’ll talk about your reasons for seeking support, any goals you have, and how sex and intimacy coaching can help. 

Step 2: Choose your coaching path — whether you’re coming to me as an individual or a couple you can choose to book a la carte coaching sessions or enroll in a 3 or 6 month coaching program.

And depending on what’s best for you, we can book in person sessions (at my office in Portland, Maine) or online sessions.

Step 3: Begin your journey toward hotter sex and more fulfilling relationships! 

(If you still have some questions about what to expect, check out the FAQ at the bottom of this page.)

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Client Testimonials

  • Allie helped me have my 1st G-spot orgasm!

    I'm so glad I found Allie! I was not able to have an O from penetration. My husband of 26 years is very patient and we tried a lot years ago. Before working with Allie, I was worried there was no hope if I was already 50 and hadn't made it happen yet. She taught me that in some people the area needs to be "woken up", she told me what toys to buy and how to do breathing exercises, etc. With her guidance my husband and I started communicating about what was needed and he was all in. Allie is so easy to talk to and any obstacles that came up she told me how to work with them. I'm happily having the missing Os and our sex life is the best it's been. Allie changed everything!

    - Jenya, married client

  • Allie helped me become more embodied & present to my boundaries.

    “Allie helped me see where my boundaries were lacking and become more present in my body. I couldn't ask for a more beautiful gift. I came to her because I was lacking boundaries and emotional intelligence vocabulary/tools. Allie's ability to mirror and hold me accountable helped me open up and recognize the difference embodied presence makes for intimacy. If you're searching for help with boundaries and intimacy, look no further.”

    -Christiana, divorced client, getting back into dating

  • Allie helped me feel confident and empowered in dating.

    “Allie is an exceptional coach. She has a unique talent that makes you feel confident, attractive, and empowered in dating. I came to her because I was struggling to connect emotionally with women and would often get anxious and in my head. Working with Allie has given me the courage to approach women that I find attractive. That's something I always desired but never could do. Work with Allie and your dating life and relationships will forever be changed for the better.”

    -Michael, single client in his 30’s

  • Allie helped me feel more resilient.

    “I came to Allie after a tumultuous divorce and hitting rock bottom. I knew I needed healing, and after a lifetime of therapy I needed to try something different. Allie’s grounded, practical and empathetic approach helped me reach a level of emotional maturity, self-love and hope that I had never felt before. I'm less reactive and more empathetic in my communication, and rather than using negative coping mechanisms when I feel anxious or depressed, I’m attuning to my emotions daily and letting them flow. Everyone in my life notices the difference in me.”

    - Rachel, divorced client, exploring polyamory

  • Allie helped me be more vulnerable.

    “Allie has an amazing ability to listen, digest, and provide an insightful next step. When I came to Allie I was in the process of exploring my sensuality and noticed I had some sexual shame that I wanted to explore. The work we did together helped me tap into my healthy feminine and be more comfortable with that energy, as well as find a sense of safety in myself and my body. Allie helped me deepen my awareness of my emotions and desires and be more vulnerable with everyone around me.”

    -Vanessa, single client in her 30’s

  • Allie helped me connect with myself.

    “Allie holds space for all your feelings - working with her is truly joyful - even when it is scary to admit you need help in the most vulnerable places. Her Ignite program helped me connect with with myself, my sexuality, and my sensuality. I learned about things that impacted me from early in my childhood that seemed insignificant, reasons I have let others engage with my body that didn't bring me pleasure, my difficulty with boundary setting, and dissociation from pleasure seeking. Allie knows what she is doing, trust the process, believe in yourself and allow her to help you connect with yourself.”

    -Lorraine, married client, mother

  • Allie showed me that connections can be more genuine when I expose my emotions.

    “Allie does a great job being present and addressing the work you're doing in the moment. She's flexible to the present conditions, which was helpful for me when unexpected feelings came up. Allie created a comfortable space for me to talk and learn about my perspective in terms of interpersonal communication. I highly recommend checking out what she has to offer. Allie brings her long background of multiple areas to the table.”

    - Andre, married client, father

  • I felt safe and seen with Allie.

    “Working with Allie has been a dream. I feel so safe and seen with her and free to discuss everything, from what is on my mind to my deepest, most vulnerable feelings and insights. She is intuitive and guides our sessions depending on what I am present with. We have tapped into some deep unconscious work and it is so powerful. It's also nice to not feel alone in my love life journey. And have support ensuring I'm adhering to my standards. Allie is such a gift! After just a few sessions with her, I feel more confident and empowered on dates and in my life.”

    - Angela, single client in her 30’s

  • Allie guided me deeper into myself.

    “Allie has guided me to delve into a deeper part of myself that’s been more profound than any therapy I’ve been in. She’s helped me reflect on how I connect and relate to other people. I always knew that vulnerability was my superpower, but due life experiences that caused me to be more guarded, I struggled to embody this in my relationships. Allie helped me practice vulnerability, by being vulnerable herself and encouraging me to go at my own pace.”

    — Natasha, single middle-aged client

  • Working with Allie has been the best investment I've made in my healing.

    “I've experienced more growth and attainment of long-aspired goals within 2 months of working with Allie than I have in the past 12 years of intense self-development courses, psychotherapy, art therapy, dance therapy, meditation, a myriad of energetic healing sessions and even work with other somatic practitioners. Working with Allie has been the best investment I've made in my healing, self confidence and ability to get more of what I want and need in my relationships.”

    -Viviana, single middle-aged client

still not sure if sex and intimacy coaching is right for you?

See if you resonate with any of these common obstacles to intimacy

Common Obstacles to Emotional Intimacy

  • People pleasing – prioritizing the wants, needs and comfort of others over one’s own

  • Avoiding, withholding or intellectualizing emotions

  • Achievement-centric living – prioritizing goals and progress over embodiment and connection

  • Lack of boundaries or rigid boundaries that push others away

  • Lack of awareness and skills to work with triggers and express feelings and needs in the moment

  • Lack of skills and process to repair conflicts and ruptures

  • Prioritizing being right over feeling connected

  • Internalized shame, guilt and low self-worth

Common Obstacles to Physical Intimacy

  • Not talking about sex

  • Being too busy or preoccupied with other things for sex (parenthood, messy house, work) 

  • Unrepaired hurts and built-up resentment

  • Living in the head, dissociation from the body — especially sexualized body parts

  • Low body confidence, self-judgment — feeling too self-conscious to enjoy one’s own pleasure

  • Spilling erotic energy onto others who do not want it, or in a way that is unappealing

  • Lack of erotic skills and knowledge about what one desires or what one's partner desires.

  • Sexual dysfunction (performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, painful sex, low desire/low libido)

  • Guilt, shame or anxiety about sexual desires and pleasure

Can you see yourself in any of these? Do you feel like there are obstacles to you having the intimacy and sex life that you desire? If so, I’d love to help.

book a free consult

Sex and intimacy coaching

for individuals

Whether you’re single, dating, or partnered, I help you heal painful patterns that get in the way of the love and sex life you desire and deserve.

In an embodied way, we’ll explore what turns you on and what shuts you down. Working with me, you'll develop the intimacy skills to help you and your relationships thrive. 

learn more about 1:1 coaching

Sex and Intimacy coaching

for C0uples

I work with monogamous and poly couples to strengthen what's working, redesign what's not, and bring new life into your connection.

Our work together builds lasting communication skills to repair from past hurts and ongoing triggers. And brings alignment, variety and playfulness into your sex life. 

Learn more about couples coaching

Self-Guided Options

I’ve created a range of free and paid resources to help you grow your erotic confidence and deepen your intimacy skills.

When you enroll in a coaching package, you’ll unlock my full library of self-guided programs.

Not quite ready for 1:1 or couples coaching? No problem — you can dive in and explore on your own anytime.

Explore self-guided Programs + resources

faqs

  • Sex and intimacy coaching is an exploratory practice of getting to know and accepting yourself both sexually and emotionally, locating and moving through barriers to intimacy, and learning skills to be vulnerable and get more of what you need.

    As a Certified Somatica® practitioner, my approach combines talk-based coaching with experiential, body-based (somatic) practices (see “What does a sex and intimacy coaching session look like?” below for examples). Learn more about the Somatica® Method of coaching here.

    The somatic or body-focused aspect of this approach will help you to map and develop awareness around your embodied (physical) and emotional responses to triggers like stress, unmet needs, boundary crossing, as well as safety, connection and pleasure. In session we may explore different bodily positions, movements, touch, and sensations to help free stored emotions, shift patterns that aren’t serving you, develop self-awareness, and heal.

  • This is a clothing on method with no kissing of the mouth or touching of the genitals. Aside from that, we will be working within each of our boundaries. Personally, I need to feel a lot of safety with someone, which comes with authentic connection, before progressing to more intimate physical touch. Part of our work together will be identifying your unique boundaries, and supporting you to express those during our session so that you can get better at expressing them in your life.

  • During our sessions, we’ll start by checking in. As we’re connecting and getting to know each other, I’m always scanning for and bringing to your attention the things you do really well when it comes to intimacy, and anything that may be a barrier for you.

    Based on where you’re at on the day of our session and what you’re working on overall, I may introduce experiential practices – that I’ll guide you through or we’ll do together (or I’ll facilitate between you and your partner) – to help you heal, grow and overcome your unique barriers to intimacy.

    Examples of experiential practices include:

    • Core desires exploration to unveil the feelings that turn you on the most

    • Relaxing into receiving to get more comfortable with receiving love, touch, desire and presence from others (and feel you are worthy of it).

    • Trigger and boundary mapping to develop a felt sense of your triggers and boundaries in real time.

    • Practicing the steps of relationship repair so that you have a process that you know works for you (and your partner) to develop understanding and come back into connection after inevitable ruptures/conflicts

    • Sharing present moment feelings to develop your emotional literacy and ability to connect emotionally with yourself and others

    • Inner child healing to deepen self-connection and self-love

    • Pleasure mapping and exploring self and partner touch to develop a map of where you feel the most pleasure and the types of touch you like best

    • Erotic embodiment breathwork to feel more present in your body and connected to your sexual self

    • And so much more!

    At the end of each session, we’ll take a few minutes to debrief so that you have a sense of if and how you want to take what we worked on forward to improve your life and relationships. I may also give you some optional home practices to continue integrating our work between sessions.

    As part of my coaching programs, you have the option to contact me between sessions for support navigating challenging conversations/situations, share insights for deeper integration, ad stay accountable.

  • I’m a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach, not a licensed therapist, so this is not therapy. The primary differences are the somatic and experiential component (see above list of experiential practices) of this work (versus therapy which tends to be more talk-based), the boundaries of the method (see above question), and the focus of our work together.

    The focus of sex coaching is on sexual empowerment and creating a more pleasure-focused life through communication and skill-building, and can include touch and even spirituality if that’s your thing.

    Additionally, the relationship you have with me is different from the relationship you may have with a therapist or counselor in that our relationship is based on mutual vulnerability (meaning that I will never expect you to be vulnerable without also bringing my vulnerability) and the real time connection between us is the primary substrate for our work. You can think of working with me as entering a “Relationship Lab” (see Somatica® Philosophy) – rather than talking about what you need to work on to have more intimacy, we will work on it together during the session.

  • A note about trauma:

    Working with me to understand and express yourself sexually and emotionally is deeply healing. However, I am not your first stop for processing trauma, sexual or otherwise. If you are in active, acute trauma, please seek the support of a licensed therapist or counselor. And if you have experienced trauma in the past, I ask that you are either working with or have worked with a licensed practitioner around that trauma as a precursor to working with me.

    Think of this somatic sex and intimacy work as another puzzle piece to your trauma healing journey. My goal is to support you in feeling empowered by helping you confidently express your needs and boundaries so that your trauma gets triggered less often, and you can still thrive despite it.